Fears about Later Life

^{In the process of becoming a Certified Senior Advisor, I have been privileged to glean wisdom and insight from some of the foremost authorities on senior life today.  Along the way I’ve come to the realization that aging is a set of processes that are significantly affected by what we think.  Our attitudes, values, and beliefs have great impact on our physical health, psychological well-being, and social involvement during our later years.}

^{Sadly, there are many prejudices and stereotypes that are applied to persons based solely on their age.  This is what we call ageism, and one of the most frequent “stereotypes” is the view of later life as a period of decline and disaster. However, whether you’re a senior, or you have a loved one who is experiencing the challenges of senior life, having the right attitude can make all the difference in the world.}

^{Of course, not all fears about old age are based on prejudice or imagination.  Some fears are all too real, and we need to take account of those fears in making plans for the later years.}

^{While not a given, advancing age increases the probability of chronic illness, dementia, and death.  A quick look at life insurance rates will tell you that mortality is a realistic fear for elders.  Yet survey research suggests that older people are actually less afraid of death than younger people.}

^{So what are they afraid of?  Older people typically express fears of dependency and loss of control. In comparison, death may even seem preferable.  For example, the history of assisted suicide in Oregon suggests that very few people, even with terminal illness, actually make use of the option.  When they do, it is mostly not for reasons of pain, but because they fear dependency and loss of autonomy.}

^{Fear of dependency is also the reason behind common attitudes about nursing homes.  It is not unusual for older people to say, “I’d rather die than go into a nursing home.” Ironically, many who do enter long-term care facilities adapt to the situation and may even find more opportunities for activities, social contact, and support.  But the fear of being “put away in a nursing home” is still widespread.}

^{Another important fear among seniors is that of impoverishment – outliving one’s income or assets.  Here again, the fear is not unrealistic because poverty rates rise dramatically among those over age 80.}

^{Lastly, there is the fear of losing one’s mind, an informal way of referring to dementia or diminished mental capacity.  Unfortunately, rates of dementia do rise dramatically as people age.  However … developing dementia is not inevitable, and there are encouraging “methods” and techniques being utilized today that are quite successful.}

^{The overall picture of fears in later life was captured well by King Solomon in the book of Ecclesiastes.  As Solomon is summing up his thoughts he says, “When people live to be very old, let them rejoice in every day of life.  But let them also remember there will be many dark days. Everything still to come is meaningless.}

^{Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, ‘Life is not pleasant anymore.’ Remember him before the light of the sun, moon, and stars is dim to your old eyes, and rain clouds continually darken your sky. Remember him before your legs—the guards of your house—start to tremble; and before your shoulders—the strong men—stoop. Remember him before your teeth—your few remaining servants—stop grinding; and before your eyes … see dimly. Remember him before the door to life’s opportunities is closed and the sound of work fades. Now you rise at the first chirping of the birds, but then all their sounds will grow faint. Remember him before you become fearful of falling and worry about danger in the streets; before your hair turns white like an almond tree in bloom, and you drag along without energy like a dying grasshopper, and the caper berry (i.e. an ancient aphrodisiac) no longer inspires sexual desire. Remember him before you near the grave, your everlasting home, when the mourners will weep at your funeral.” (Ecclesiastes 11:8; 12:1-5 NLT)}

^{As Solomon understood that, no matter how powerful we are, old age can bring with it a loss of power and therefore greater vulnerability.}

^{Growing older is definitely a challenge, but it’s great to know we’re not alone, and we’re not without resources to make the journey manageable.}

^{Carl R. Johnson}

^{Certified Senior Advisor (CSA)®}

^{Community Relations Director}

^{Abiding HomeCare}

^{Silverdale, WA}

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